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	Edie Difato used to say, "No matter how I feel about it, two plus two always equals four. Even if I'm in an auto accident and am suffering excruciating pain, two plus two still equals four. In the same way, the love of God poured out for us in Jesus is always real, no matter what we feel."		Edie Difato used to say, "No matter how I feel about it, two plus two always equals four. Even if I'm in an auto accident and am suffering excruciating pain, two plus two still equals four. In the same way, the love of God poured out for us in Jesus is always real, no matter what we feel."

	== Action ~~Erodes Depression~~ ==		== Action erodes depression ==

	[[Perfectionism\|Perfectionism breeds depression.]]		[[Perfectionism\|Perfectionism breeds depression.]]

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	We do not have to do what we feel like doing, unless, by God's grace, the feeling corresponds to what is right and just and fitting and helpful for our salvation. When we [[agere contra\|act against our inclinations,]] we grow in [[virtue.]] "Virtue is its own reward." When we practice patience, we grow in the power to endure all things; when we practice forgiveness, we grow in the power to forgive all things; when we practice love, we grow in the power to love God and all of His children.		We do not have to do what we feel like doing, unless, by God's grace, the feeling corresponds to what is right and just and fitting and helpful for our salvation. When we [[agere contra\|act against our inclinations,]] we grow in [[virtue.]] "Virtue is its own reward." When we practice patience, we grow in the power to endure all things; when we practice forgiveness, we grow in the power to forgive all things; when we practice love, we grow in the power to love God and all of His children.

	~~== ''Agere contra'' — Contrary action ==~~

	~~:; [https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/acting-against/ "Acting Against"]~~

	~~::: Agere contra [...] means “to act against,” and refers to acting against behaviors that are not life-giving and hold us back from freedom. Edmund Lo, SJ, writes about agere contra:~~

	:::: We can be attached to patterns of behaviour that seemingly make us feel safer, be they our insecurities, doubts, or unwillingness to be pulled out of our comfort zones. They prevent us from living our lives fully in the way the Lord intends. When we live our lives in Spirit and in Truth, we live in a true freedom. Agere contra helps us to confront those things that hold us back from such freedom; better yet, it helps us to grow into this freedom.

	~~:; AA, 4th edition, p. 366~~

	:: He suggested that for me a good starting point would simply be recognition of the fact that I had failed in running the world — in short, acceptance of the fact that I was not God. He also suggested that I might try occasionally to act as if I believed. Somewhere I had heard that it is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than to think yourself into a new way of acting, and this made sense in the context of “acting as if.”


	::- [https://ainyf.com/take-contrary-action-and-swing-toward-an-extraordinary-life-in-sobriety-bf04683bf92f "Take Contrary Action and Discover an Extraordinary Life in Sobriety: Avoid Mediocrity and Live the Life You’ve Always Wanted — Without Alcohol"]

	::: Contrary Action, in recovery terms, means taking positive action rather than resorting to habitual, self-destructive behaviors. It is the way to break patterns that keep recovering people stuck and discontent (i.e., living in the low-quality zone).

	::: Contrary Action for those suffering from alcoholism, then, is abstinence. We don’t drink, which is the beginning of affirming ourselves in a positive way. We brighten with abstinence — and when we are active in our own recovery. But, at some point, drinking is not the issue anymore.

	== Particular kinds of feelings ==		== Particular kinds of feelings ==

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	== ''Agere contra'' — Contrary action ==		== ''Agere contra'' — Contrary action ==

			:; [https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/acting-against/ "Acting Against"]

			::: Agere contra [...] means “to act against,” and refers to acting against behaviors that are not life-giving and hold us back from freedom. Edmund Lo, SJ, writes about agere contra:

			:::: We can be attached to patterns of behaviour that seemingly make us feel safer, be they our insecurities, doubts, or unwillingness to be pulled out of our comfort zones. They prevent us from living our lives fully in the way the Lord intends. When we live our lives in Spirit and in Truth, we live in a true freedom. Agere contra helps us to confront those things that hold us back from such freedom; better yet, it helps us to grow into this freedom.

	:; AA, 4th edition, p. 366		:; AA, 4th edition, p. 366

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	:: He suggested that for me a good starting point would simply be recognition of the fact that I had failed in running the world — in short, acceptance of the fact that I was not God. He also suggested that I might try occasionally to act as if I believed. Somewhere I had heard that it is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than to think yourself into a new way of acting, and this made sense in the context of “acting as if.”		:: He suggested that for me a good starting point would simply be recognition of the fact that I had failed in running the world — in short, acceptance of the fact that I was not God. He also suggested that I might try occasionally to act as if I believed. Somewhere I had heard that it is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than to think yourself into a new way of acting, and this made sense in the context of “acting as if.”


			::- [https://ainyf.com/take-contrary-action-and-swing-toward-an-extraordinary-life-in-sobriety-bf04683bf92f "Take Contrary Action and Discover an Extraordinary Life in Sobriety: Avoid Mediocrity and Live the Life You’ve Always Wanted — Without Alcohol"]

			::: Contrary Action, in recovery terms, means taking positive action rather than resorting to habitual, self-destructive behaviors. It is the way to break patterns that keep recovering people stuck and discontent (i.e., living in the low-quality zone).

			::: Contrary Action for those suffering from alcoholism, then, is abstinence. We don’t drink, which is the beginning of affirming ourselves in a positive way. We brighten with abstinence — and when we are active in our own recovery. But, at some point, drinking is not the issue anymore.

	== Particular kinds of feelings ==		== Particular kinds of feelings ==

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Action Erodes Depression

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	We do not have to do what we feel like doing, unless, by God's grace, the feeling corresponds to what is right and just and fitting and helpful for our salvation. When we [[agere contra\|act against our inclinations,]] we grow in [[virtue.]] "Virtue is its own reward." When we practice patience, we grow in the power to endure all things; when we practice forgiveness, we grow in the power to forgive all things; when we practice love, we grow in the power to love God and all of His children.		We do not have to do what we feel like doing, unless, by God's grace, the feeling corresponds to what is right and just and fitting and helpful for our salvation. When we [[agere contra\|act against our inclinations,]] we grow in [[virtue.]] "Virtue is its own reward." When we practice patience, we grow in the power to endure all things; when we practice forgiveness, we grow in the power to forgive all things; when we practice love, we grow in the power to love God and all of His children.

	::- [https://ainyf.com/take-contrary-action-and-swing-toward-an-extraordinary-life-in-sobriety-bf04683bf92f "Take Contrary Action and Discover an Extraordinary Life in Sobriety: Avoid Mediocrity and Live the Life You’ve Always Wanted — Without Alcohol"]

	::: Contrary Action, in recovery terms, means taking positive action rather than resorting to habitual, self-destructive behaviors. It is the way to break patterns that keep recovering people stuck and discontent (i.e., living in the low-quality zone).

	::: Contrary Action for those suffering from alcoholism, then, is abstinence. We don’t drink, which is the beginning of affirming ourselves in a positive way. We brighten with abstinence — and when we are active in our own recovery. But, at some point, drinking is not the issue anymore.

	== ''Agere contra'' — Contrary action ==		== ''Agere contra'' — Contrary action ==

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Action Erodes Depression

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	We do not have to do what we feel like doing, unless, by God's grace, the feeling corresponds to what is right and just and fitting and helpful for our salvation. When we [[agere contra\|act against our inclinations,]] we grow in [[virtue.]] "Virtue is its own reward." When we practice patience, we grow in the power to endure all things; when we practice forgiveness, we grow in the power to forgive all things; when we practice love, we grow in the power to love God and all of His children.		We do not have to do what we feel like doing, unless, by God's grace, the feeling corresponds to what is right and just and fitting and helpful for our salvation. When we [[agere contra\|act against our inclinations,]] we grow in [[virtue.]] "Virtue is its own reward." When we practice patience, we grow in the power to endure all things; when we practice forgiveness, we grow in the power to forgive all things; when we practice love, we grow in the power to love God and all of His children.

			::- [https://ainyf.com/take-contrary-action-and-swing-toward-an-extraordinary-life-in-sobriety-bf04683bf92f "Take Contrary Action and Discover an Extraordinary Life in Sobriety: Avoid Mediocrity and Live the Life You’ve Always Wanted — Without Alcohol"]

			::: Contrary Action, in recovery terms, means taking positive action rather than resorting to habitual, self-destructive behaviors. It is the way to break patterns that keep recovering people stuck and discontent (i.e., living in the low-quality zone).

			::: Contrary Action for those suffering from alcoholism, then, is abstinence. We don’t drink, which is the beginning of affirming ourselves in a positive way. We brighten with abstinence — and when we are active in our own recovery. But, at some point, drinking is not the issue anymore.

	== ''Agere contra'' — Contrary action ==		== ''Agere contra'' — Contrary action ==

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Action Erodes Depression

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	We do not have to do what we feel like doing, unless, by God's grace, the feeling corresponds to what is right and just and fitting and helpful for our salvation. When we [[agere contra\|act against our inclinations,]] we grow in [[virtue.]] "Virtue is its own reward." When we practice patience, we grow in the power to endure all things; when we practice forgiveness, we grow in the power to forgive all things; when we practice love, we grow in the power to love God and all of His children.		We do not have to do what we feel like doing, unless, by God's grace, the feeling corresponds to what is right and just and fitting and helpful for our salvation. When we [[agere contra\|act against our inclinations,]] we grow in [[virtue.]] "Virtue is its own reward." When we practice patience, we grow in the power to endure all things; when we practice forgiveness, we grow in the power to forgive all things; when we practice love, we grow in the power to love God and all of His children.

			== ''Agere contra'' — Contrary action ==

			:; AA, 4th edition, p. 366

			:: He suggested that for me a good starting point would simply be recognition of the fact that I had failed in running the world — in short, acceptance of the fact that I was not God. He also suggested that I might try occasionally to act as if I believed. Somewhere I had heard that it is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than to think yourself into a new way of acting, and this made sense in the context of “acting as if.”

	== Particular kinds of feelings ==		== Particular kinds of feelings ==

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	Feeling tempted is not the same thing as sinning.		Feeling tempted is not the same thing as sinning.

	Of course, if we invite temptation into our hearts--by using pornography, by replaying tapes of past hurts, by nursing grudges, by entertaining thoughts of revenge, etc.--then we are guilty of the sin.		Of course, if we invite temptation into our hearts — by using pornography, by replaying tapes of past hurts, by nursing grudges, by entertaining thoughts of revenge, etc. — then we are guilty of the sin.

	== RRAA ==		== RRAA ==

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	:: The passions are natural components of the human psyche; they form the passageway and ensure the connection between the life of the senses and the life of the mind. Our Lord called man's heart the source from which the passions spring.<ref>Cf. Mk 7:21. "From within people, from their hearts, come evil thoughts, unchastity, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, licentiousness, envy, blasphemy, arrogance, folly. All these evils come from within and they ~~defileâ€~~ [http://usccb.org/bible/mark/7:19 (Mk 7:21-23).]</ref>		:: The passions are natural components of the human psyche; they form the passageway and ensure the connection between the life of the senses and the life of the mind. Our Lord called man's heart the source from which the passions spring.<ref>Cf. Mk 7:21. "From within people, from their hearts, come evil thoughts, unchastity, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, licentiousness, envy, blasphemy, arrogance, folly. All these evils come from within and they defile” [http://usccb.org/bible/mark/7:19 (Mk 7:21-23).]</ref>

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	== RRAA ==		== RRAA ==
	I heard a man give this advice at a Twelve Step meeting one night. The origin almost certainly was from an acronym used by [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleon_Hill Napoleon Hill] and [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/W._Clement_Stone Clement Stone] ~~"R2 A2," which~~ stands for [http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=10152792424280445 "Recognize, Relate, Assimilate, Apply."]<ref>I haven't been able to pin down the first use of the acronym, nor am I certain whether it was Hill or Stone who coined it. The acronym appears in many ~~different~~ forms as well: R2A2, R-2 A-2, etc. "RRAA" is what I thought I heard at the meeting and what has stuck with me. I have modified it in some of my notes to RRA/A. The slash represents the turn from accepting my feelings as my feelings to making choices about how to have a good day today.</ref> The terms I use for dealing with feelings differ slightly from the original.		I heard a man give this advice at a Twelve Step meeting one night. The origin almost certainly was from "R2 A2," an acronym used by [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleon_Hill Napoleon Hill] and [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/W._Clement_Stone Clement Stone] that stands for [http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=10152792424280445 "Recognize, Relate, Assimilate, Apply."]<ref>I haven't been able to pin down the first use of the acronym, nor am I certain whether it was Hill or Stone who coined it. The acronym appears in many other forms as well: R2A2, R-2 A-2, etc. "RRAA" is what I thought I heard at the meeting and what has stuck with me. I have modified it in some of my notes to RRA/A. The slash represents the turn from accepting my feelings as my feelings to making choices about how to have a good day today.</ref> The terms I use for dealing with feelings differ slightly from the original.

	* '''Recognize''' the feeling. For some of us, this can be hard. At times in my life, it has taken me as many as three days to realize that I was feeling angry at someone. I have heard some people say, "Name it and claim it." This does seem to be good advice about our interior life.		* '''Recognize''' the feeling. For some of us, this can be hard. At times in my life, it has taken me as many as three days to realize that I was feeling angry at someone. I have heard some people say, "Name it and claim it." This does seem to be good advice about our interior life.

Faith and feelings - Revision history

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